A guest blogger for the day.

Folks,

Well, here is something a little different.  Last night a friend who I admire and respect a lot sent me an email asking if I fancied having a guest blogger.  I hadn’t really thought about it before, but once he explained to me what he wanted to share I thought it would be a really good idea.  Marty is a professor at Northern Kentucky University where I completed my undergraduate work.  He is a photographer and sculptor and all round super chap.  He received a very troubling email the other day that he wanted to share, along with the response that he wrote to the email.

It’s long but totally worth the read.  Marty is straight, by the way, and his response to the email just goes to show how we are all tied together in this and how important it is to share our stories.  It is powerful stuff, make no mistake, and I hope it will make you think.  Thank you Marty for sharing such a personal experience with all of us.  This is just fantastic that you have chosen to share this with everyone and I really appreciate your candour and support.  You can find the email and Marty’s response below my trademark signature…..

I’ll also throw out the opportunity for others to do a guest blog to.  If you fancy the idea of taking over my blog spot for a day, let me know.  I think it is a great idea and I would love to do more of these!

Big love,

DMx

The email that Marty received

Dear Pro-family American,

The Radical Homosexuals infiltrating the United States Congress have a plan: Indoctrinate an entire generation of American children with pro-homosexual propaganda and eliminate traditional values from American society. Their ultimate dream is to create a new America based on sexual promiscuity in which the values you and I cherish are long forgotten. I hate to admit it, but if they pass the deceptively named “Student Non-Discrimination Act,” (H.R. 998 & S. 555) that’s exactly what they’ll do. Better named the “Homosexual Classrooms Act,” its chief advocate in Congress is Rep. Jared Polis, himself an open homosexual and radical activist. And it’s dangerously close to becoming the law of the land. H.R. 998 already has 157 co-sponsors in the House! And S. 555 already has 37 co-sponsors in the Senate! That’s why I need you to act quickly — right away — to protect our nation’s youth. I have prepared the official “Protect Our Children’s Innocence” Petition to Congress for you to sign. Please click here to sign it right away so I can rush it to the Capitol with thousands more.

You and I must defeat this disastrous legislation. You see, the Homosexual Classrooms Act contains a laundry list of anti-family provisions that will:

*** Require schools to teach appalling homosexual acts so “homosexual students” don’t feel “singled out” during already explicit sex-ed classes;

*** Spin impressionable students in a whirlwind of sexual confusion and misinformation, even peer pressure to “experiment” with the homosexual “lifestyle;”

*** Exempt homosexual students from punishment for propositioning, harassing, or even sexually assaulting their classmates, as part of their specially-protected right to “freedom of self-expression;”

*** Force private and even religious schools to teach a pro-homosexual curriculum and purge any reference to religion if a student claims it creates a “hostile learning environment” for homosexual students.

And that’s just the beginning of the Homosexual Lobby’s radical agenda. In fact, it will set them up to ram through their entire perverted vision for a homosexual America. My friend, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you this is not a fight we can afford to lose. That’s why Public Advocate is leading the fight against this immoral legislation. But I need your help to do it. You see, it’s becoming harder and harder to send my message to unaware pro-Family advocates. The Radical Homosexual Lobby is working day and night to censor Public Advocate’s warning about the Homosexual Classrooms Act. That’s why, along with your signed petition, I need you to seriously consider chipping in a special contribution to Public Advocate. A contribution of just $20 will enable me to email 1,000 potential new supporters.

This is a battle for the survival of American values and the fact is, there’s no time to waste. The Homosexual Classrooms Act will turn America’s schools into indoctrination centers and its classrooms into social laboratories — and they’re pulling out all the stops to pass it. You see, they’ve disguised the bill’s wicked purpose behind an innocent name: “The Student Non-Discrimination Act.” The Homosexual Lobby knows that if the public knew the truth about their radical agenda, they’ll have no hope of success. And their dangerously close to ramming their perversity into law. H.R. 998 already has 157 co-sponsors in the House! And S. 555 already has 37 co-sponsors in the Senate! You and I need to take action right now to stop the growing momentum of this disastrous legislation. I’ve developed a massive program to launch the second they try to push this bill through — mail, email, phones, and even radio and TV ads. But that’s only possible with your support… None of these things are cheap.  In fact, running a program of the size necessary to defeat this bill can get quite expensive especially with increases in postage and printing costs. That’s why I need your generous contribution.  In addition to your signed “Protect Our Children’s Innocence” Petition, will you contribute $250, $100, $50 or even just $35 right away. $250 will allow me to email more than 10,000 potential new supporters.  $100 or even $50 would mean 5,000 or 2,500 new chances to alert more Americans to the threat of the Homosexual Classrooms Act. Every dollar counts in this fight.  Even if you can only chip in $10 or $20, it will mean 500 or 1,000 new emails.

This agenda is nothing new. In fact, other countries like Britain are already experimenting with this kind of legislation, such as mandating public schools inject pro-homosexual content into every aspect of education. Word problems in math classes are now to include homosexual characters.  History classes will document the “civil rights” struggle against the “oppressive” pro-family establishment. And it’s even started to infiltrate our state governments. In California, lawmakers want to “require schools to portray lesbians, homosexuals, transsexuals … as positive role models to children in all public schools.” Sexual deviants being held up as models of virtue? If that makes you as sick as it makes me, you simply must join me in this battle for America’s children. Please sign the “Protect Our Children’s Innocence” Petition to Congress and then send a generous contribution of at least $20 right away.  Your action will make all the difference.

And if all that wasn’t enough to convince you that action must be taken immediately, there’s more. Many say that there will always be private schools and traditional homeschool families to teach traditional values to the next generation. But the truth is, this radical agenda is NOT restricted to public schools. Kevin Jennings, Obama’s “Safe Schools Czar,” has clearly stated that “every school, public, private or parochial has an obligation” to teach a pro-homosexual curriculum. In fact, Jennings denounced school choice programs as “very dangerous” because they make it much harder to impose the Homosexual Agenda on our kids. “Lord forbid a Baptist or Mormon school,” he added. Jennings’ ultimate goal is for all curriculum in “kindergarten, and first grade, and second grade – every grade” be infused with a pro-homosexual slant. Traditional values will be squashed and demonized as old fashioned or out of date, or even as bigotry. You and I cannot let them succeed. Please sign the “Protect Our Children’s Innocence” Petition to Congress I’ve prepared for you right away. And along with your petition, would you please send a generous contribution of $250, $100, $50 or even just $35. The Homosexual Lobby has done their worst to censor my message about the Homosexual Classrooms Act — and it’s absolutely critical that I send more emails. If you contribute as little as $20, I will be able to email 1,000 new people, maybe even more! You see, every dollar counts in this fight so even if you can only chip in $10 or $20, it will make a significant difference. Thank you so much for all you have done. Sincerely, Eugene Delgaudio President, Public Advocate of the U.S.

P.S. Radical Homosexuals in Congress have a plan to indoctrinate our children in schools — both public and private. But Public Advocate is taking a stand.  Will you join me? Please sign the “Protect Our Children’s Innocence” Petition to Congress I’ve enclosed. And please, along with your petition, would you please send a generous contribution of $250, $100, $50 or even just $35 right away? Every $20 will allow me to contact up to a 1,000 potential new pro-Family supporters — or more!

 


 

Because Public Advocate of the U.S. lobbies against the Homosexual Lobby, contributions are not tax deductible for IRS purposes. This email was not produced or e-mailed at taxpayer expense.

Here is Marty’s response.

I am saddened by the blatant hatred of this forwarded email and find it so personally offensive because it hits so close to home, especially since my brother, who is coincidentally gay, works extremely hard to dispel these hateful myths that Eugene Delgaudio, President of Public Advocate of the US and author of the email you forwarded, so erroneously professes.  My brother is, without a doubt, the most considerate and thoughtful human being I know.  He would give the shirt off his back to ANYONE, regardless of their personal beliefs.

 I hesitated in sending my response to the forwarded email “to all” but believe, in the end, that if one person reading this can understand that gays/lesbians are not the plague spewing monsters that countless Christians believe them to be, then I have succeeded. The email you sent is a perfect example of how unfounded hatred and prejudice is spread like wildfire toward a demographic of individuals who want nothing more than to live their lives without constantly being judged.  This email really saddened me because I now have a better understanding of how my brother feels to be so unfairly judged, every day of his life… through the daily media reports, forwarded emails, degrading comments about gays/lesbians from people who do not know he’s gay, and even comments under peoples’ breath or even outright comments made directly to him and his partner of 8 years.   

 In reading your email, it is apparent that the author and the countless people forwarding this email have never spent an ounce of time with a gay/lesbian person.  I get the impression that the author truly believes that if awareness of gays/lesbians in our school systems is taught that ANY straight kid will be whisked away to planet “gay”dom where they will be instantly converted to gays and lesbians.  There’s no proof that gays/lesbians are any more promiscuous than their straight counterparts.  Yes, I’m sure there are some just as there are promiscuous straight men and woman.  Contrary to Mr. Delgaudio’s paranoid and propagandist views, I think you’d be surprised to know that gays/lesbians are all around, even at the church you attend, the places you do your daily business transactions, the companies you do work for, the people who serve your food in restaurants, doctors and nurses that take care of your sick family members, people who work for social services that see to the needs of the disadvantaged, etc.  The point is gays/lesbians are all around and you don’t even know it because they choose to keep their personal lives private, like the rest of us.

 I’m not sure if anyone receiving this email even read the ACTUAL text of the H.R. 998 Student Non-Discrimination Act of 2011, but the author of your forwarded email makes so many false and inflated judgments as to sway his audience that it’s frightening to think that people accept his views as fact.  NOWHERE in the bill does it say that private schools will be affected, NOWHERE does it say curricular changes to now teach “homosexual acts” will be mandated, NOWHERE does it say “homosexual” students will be exempt from punishment, NOWHERE does it say anything about private schools… in fact it is very specific in addressing the concern in PUBLIC schools which is unfortunate because gay/lesbian students in private schools need to be protected too, NOWHERE does it say it will encourage “experimentation” amongst students.  I sense that the author is so paranoid that coming in contact with a gay/lesbian student will taint every straight student for life.   I would really like to know how anyone reading this email I’m writing has ever been directly and negatively affected by the actions of a gay/lesbian individual. These claims the author is making are hysterical exaggerations.

There are far more impressionable forces at work in schools across America than gay/lesbian students influencing their straight peers’ sexual awareness.  If one is using the Bible as a source of guidance to squash the small population of gays/and lesbians, why not spend so much more time and energy on the far greater majority that are more actively offending the so called 10 Commandments and the Seven Deadly Sins?  If you look at current media (TV, Movies, News) and how violence, especially murder, vanity through advertising, excessive material wealth, gluttony of the obese in our society, the laziness of “lifers” and generations of the same families on welfare, bullies and teasers who physical and mentally beat people into a fear and depression of self-worthlessness, the greedy rich bankers stealing the life time earnings of hard working Americans, the “untouchable politicians and CEO’s whose affairs make our political system look like a circus, etc, etc, etc.

 Perhaps the author should spend some time talking to straight high school and middle school students of both Public and Private schools about their sexual experimentations as I am floored to hear from my current freshman college students and fellow peers who teach at the high school level about what types of deviant sexual activities students are into these days… and with no regard for personal health or integrity.  It’s not the gay/lesbian students I’m worried about.  The things I have heard about this generation of young students and their sexual naiveté is so frightening and should be of greater concern than a few gay/lesbian students trying to understand who they’re becoming.

 The H.R. 998/S 555 proposed bill is designed to protect gay/lesbian/transgendered students from harassment, bullying, intimidation through violence, or any other kind of harmful behavior to the student.  These are the same basic rights guaranteed to every other student of varying color, religious preference, gender, financial status, etc.  We live in America, where EVERY law-abiding citizen should have the right to live freely as they choose but also be protected by the same laws that protect every other law-abiding citizen.   THESE ARE KIDS!  They may be your own, your nieces and nephews, kids of your coworkers and friends, kids you know through your church, kids that work at the local grocery store bagging your groceries.  ALL kids deserve the same healthy and supportive upbringing in the school systems of America and should never feel belittled or beaten down because of their differences.  Be it a parent, peer, or school system, if you damage a kid’s sense of worth and confidence at this stage of growth and development then this kid may suffer irreparable hardship and will grow into an adult with a lifetime of problems, all thanks to a supposed system of interdependent safety nets.

 Everyone reading this knows how complex going through puberty is and how difficult it can be to get through it without every having been made fun of because of a huge pimple, excessive body hair, and under or over developed body, etc.  Throw in raging hormones and a different sexual awareness compared to the majority of your straight peers and you have an extremely sensitive maturing individual.   To make matters worse, consider for a moment being a very small minority of gay/lesbian students of a school in Anywhere, USA just discovering your true sexual identity and it not being the ideal of what you’ve been conditioned to believe up until this point in your life.  You are constantly being criticized from every angle for a biological occurrence over which you had no control or choice.  You’re scared to death to let your family know for fear of being disowned, which many kids unfortunately are.  You may feel incredibly isolated and depressed because you aren’t sure what’s going on inside your body and have no idea how to express that to someone in confidence.  Statistics show that students at a young age that are dealing with their uncertain sexual orientation have higher suicide rates than their straight peers.  I’ve read of kids as young as 10 years old committing suicide for being teased, bullied and ridiculed for being “different”.

 As a college professor of mostly freshman students, I often see the pain, humiliation, anxiety, and depression of gay/lesbian students whose self-worth and confidence are all but pummeled as a result of being severely ridiculed for their sexual orientation, primarily by family members and close friends. Throw in the countless degrading insults from strangers and you have one very insecure student.  Not all of my students are gay/lesbian and not all have the confidence issues I’m speaking of but there are enough gay and lesbian students that really just need someone to LISTEN to them and show a GENUINE interest in who they are, regardless of their sexual orientation.   In the 15 years I’ve been teaching at the college level, I’ve been fortunate enough to have had 8 students that I can remember that actually felt confident and comfortable enough in my classroom to “come out” in my class through a self-portrait art project, not because it was a requirement but because the classroom dynamic was such that they could do so without judgment.  I’ve also had the unfortunate experience of sitting with a lesbian student waiting for campus police and paramedics to arrive to assess her condition after she had just sliced her wrist open after having a fight with her parents about her coming out to them as being a lesbian.  I’ve talked with several gay/lesbian students in confidence about their struggles of depression and suicidal thoughts due to feeling worthless because of constant bullying and teasing.  I’m not qualified to counsel these students but I do provide an attentive and compassionate ear because all too often these students feel they have no one to talk to.   After I listen to their stories, I ask if I can point them to the proper counseling services to better assist with their needs.  If such a bill as H.R. 998 were already in place, I believe many of the kids mentioned above wouldn’t have the breadth of issues that currently thwart their view of acceptance in society.

 I realize I’m being verbose, but this issue is too important to me now that I have been on the receiving end of a very vile and hateful email that has directly affected me personally, the people close to me and the students for whom I teach.   I would like to finish with a few words about 6 people who have made a significant impact in my life, three woman and three men, all of whom happen to be lesbian and gay.

 The first two women I met several years ago while preparing for a national conference here in Cincinnati.  Patricia and Laura have been together for decades and both were very active in their educational fields, Patricia being a nationally recognized educator and Laura being an internationally respected K-12 education pioneer.  Both of them are selfless in their relationships with younger individuals in the community, always asking about what you were doing and never speaking once about themselves.  They give generously of their time and money to local causes.  Patricia became an incredible role model and mentor for me as I began my teaching and studio art career.  She was beyond patient and endearing in all aspects but above all she was the most passionate and full of life individual I have ever met.  Prior to meeting Patricia and Laura, they had taken in a young male college student after learning his mother was no longer able to support him.  I’ve met him before and he speaks of Patricia and Laura with such reverence and respect, considering them second mothers in a very difficult time of his life.  He is now married with kids.  Unfortunately Patricia passed away a few years ago.

 I recently had a student named “Mary” who I continue to correspond with whose mother left “Mary” and her father at a very early age.  Her father decided to come out after living a life of lies to his family…  he was not being true to himself and his family since he had known he was gay from such an early age.  The mother left, and as a result of serious financial hardship, “Mary” and her father lived out of a car for several years.  She’s told me stories of how they would sleep in the car but spend the day in the library, reading and learning about important subjects and life’s hard lessons.  “Mary” is one of the brightest and confident individuals I know.  She’s currently an Honor’s student who initially studied pre-med, she speaks fluent French, practices with the Cincinnati Ballet Company in her spare time while working weekends at a local hospital.  Her father instilled wise examples of integrity and perseverance despite his struggles to provide for a family like environment for “Mary”.  “Mary’s” father never lost site of being a true father to his daughter.  Unfortunately “Mary’s” father died a few years ago but I have a tremendous amount of respect for a man I have never met who raised such a unique and talented young woman.

 My brother’s partner has endured a very difficult life too.  He comes from a family of alcoholics, his father and his two other brothers have lived a terrible life of alcohol abuse. Growing up in a household of such abuse, my brother’s partner was determined to make a difference in his life and those around him.  My brother’s partner is a successful and accomplished realtor in Rhode Island.  He’s been recognized on several occasions not only for his contributions to his profession but also for his community service. He is a tireless leader in the community. My brother and his partner have an annual dinner and winter coat drive for a local shelter in their community. Because of a lack of a parental role models in the lives of his nieces, my brother and his partner have become surrogate parent of sorts, having the nieces and their boyfriends over regularly to show their love and support through various things like helping them to learn how to prepare and cook meals, by helping them understand the value of a job and helping them open a bank account to help them manage and save their money.  Most importantly though, my brother’s partner is like a real brother to me, I love him unconditionally as if he was my own brother.

 Lastly, I’d like you to know a little about my brother.  Growing up my dad wanted him to play football but my brother was always a little overweight.  My dad would have him chewing gum and sitting in saunas to shed weight in hopes of making weight to be able to play.  My brother never liked playing football and only did it to please my dad.  I could see the humiliation and embarrassment on my brother’s face time and time again as he struggled to please my dad.  As brothers we often fought and called each other names – I often called him a faggot, a term loosely used when we were younger but not because I thought he was gay.  I had no idea he was gay, I didn’t even really know what gay meant, and now shudder to think of how damaging such words could have been.  

 Though we fought up through high school, we became more tolerant of our differences, though I’m not so sure he ever expressed a mean thought to me that I can remember. My brother has gone on to receive his PhD and is currently working for a firm as a project manager overseeing projects of national importance dealing with the disparities of social services and health care for the underprivileged and under-represented.  He is beyond compassionate as a human being and has an innate thoughtfulness that goes beyond compare.  He’s always been the voice of reason for me when I get worked up about something and is a great mediator when it comes to difficult family matters.  He’s a first class brother.

 I’m not trying to change opinions here, I’m simply trying to convey a more accurate understanding of the true sense of integrity individuals of gay/lesbian orientation have contrary to the very prejudiced picture Mr. Eugene Delgaudio and his Public Advocate of the U.S. organization paints in his unjustified and false claims to derail the H.R. 998 Students Non-Discrimination Act, 2011.  Based on my personal experiences with loved ones, friends, coworkers, and students that I know who are gays/lesbians, they are all equally contributing individuals to the betterment of the greater good of society.  For those reading this, all I ask is that the next time you have a choice to respond to insensitive and unfounded material, please think twice about the hatred you’re continuing to spread.  This world would be a much better place if we could focus on the majority of commonalities we all have than the fewer differences that seem to drastically divide us.  As adults, we have an obligation to see that all our kids have the same opportunities AND protections in the schools they attend so they can develop into young adults with blossoming self-worth and self-confidence, the underlying and invaluable characteristics of a successful and effective education.

 Thanks for your time and consideration if reading this letter,

 Marty

One thought on “A guest blogger for the day.

  1. Thanks so much Marty,,, and David. I tried to forward this to Dan Savage, and I posted the link on my Facebook for folks there to read.
    “I am saddened by the blatant hatred of this forwarded email and find it so personally offensive because it hits so close to home”..me too Marty!, me too.

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