So the topic today is a sticky one. It is all about the question of does one chose to be gay. This has all come about because Cynthia Nixon recently said in a article with the New York Times that being gay for her is a choice. I think her exact words were something along the line of her being straight and her being gay, and that she thinks being gay is better. She has since clarified it a little, indicating that she is really bisexual and that she just doesn’t like to use that word as bisexuals are always the ones who get dumped on and who nobody likes. It seems like you have acheived that goal a different way now, honey, judging by the backlash your comments have caused.
This is an interesting topic if only for the fact that in recent years so much about “being gay” has revolved around the choice argument, namely that most LBGT people don’t feel that it is a choice and is something that they are born with (thank you Lady Gaga…..). Certainly for me it was never a conscious choice; it was just the way the cookie crumbled. Maybe Ms Nixon feels otherwise. I think all of the LGBT people I know also have found that it isn’t a choice for them.
Today’s link looks at the question of whether it does indeed matter. Would it make a difference if someone chooses to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual? It’s an interesting question and one that has the potential for lots of heated discussion. All the people who usually say it is a choice are conservative, STRAIGHT, politicians, which hardly gives them a credible place to be speaking from. How can you say it is a choice, when you are from the other camp and have no experience of what it actually FEELS like mentally and emotionally to be gay? But that kind of logic never seems to dawn on them. But Ms Nixon is unusual in her comments, being an LGBT “whatever” person, and there are plenty of people who are unhappy with her comments as they feel it jeopardises the current moves toward equality.
But does it? Is it a choice for some of you out there? Does it matter if it is a choice? Sound off in the comments and let us all know where you stand….heterosexuals too!