Mayors for Marriage program

Today’s link and a second link

So, here is something that has been quietly happening and has just caught my attention.  I had read about it a few weeks ago but had not commented on it (one story a day can be SO restricting….lol) but now seemed like a good time.

The “program” if you will is 116 mayors from cities across the US who have come together to support marriage equality.  Spearheaded by Michael Bloomberg in New York the mayors are from all kinds of places.  You can check out the full list so far in the second link.  It’s really interesting to see the variety of places that have supportive mayors.

This kind of program is vital as it really helps build a strong and growing base.  It also allows peer pressure to take effect at the political table too so lets hope that it continues to grow.  Cincinnati’s own mayor, Mark Mallory just joined the list today.  I do find this troubling as it seems to be public knowledge that Mallory is gay and lives with his male partner.  He has never “come out” though, which in a city such as Cincinnati which is so conservative gives me pause for thought.  It’s troubling that he should stay closeted in a place where there is so much to do, especially in the light of Cincinnati’s history of suppressing equality, both in relation to race and sexuality.  But that is a topic for another day.

So I’d like to say thanks to all the Mayors who have joined up so far.  Here’s to hoping that they pressurize (an English term…) the rest of their colleagues around the country.  Anyone want to tally them up by political affiliation, or would that be to depressing to do?

Big love,

DMx

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Cynthia Nixon and a new statement

Today’s Link

Well, a short one today.  It was good to see some discussion and comments on yesterdays posts and today is a sort of continuation.  Cynthia Nixon made a new statement today which can be found at the link above.  It clarifies much more clearly what she said the other day regarding choice.  It’s good that she cleared it all up.

The question and topic from yesterday still remains important though and feel free to carry it on if you wish.  Both Greg and Simon made excellent points  that certainly require some thinking about.  Chaps, I’ll get back to you when I have a few more minutes!

Big love,

DMx

Is being gay a choice?

Today’s Link

So the topic today is a sticky one.  It is all about the question of does one chose to be gay.  This has all come about because Cynthia Nixon recently said in a article with the New York Times that being gay for her is a choice.  I think her exact words were something along the line of her being straight and her being gay, and that she thinks being gay is better.  She has since clarified it a little, indicating that she is really bisexual and that she just doesn’t like to use that word as bisexuals are always the ones who get dumped on and who nobody likes.  It seems like you have acheived that goal a different way now, honey, judging by the backlash your comments have caused.

This is an interesting topic if only for the fact that in recent years so much about “being gay” has revolved around the choice argument, namely that most LBGT people don’t feel that it is a choice and is something that they are born with (thank you Lady Gaga…..).  Certainly for me it was never a conscious choice; it was just the way the cookie crumbled.  Maybe Ms Nixon feels otherwise.  I think all of the LGBT people I know also have found that it isn’t a choice for them.

Today’s link looks at the question of whether it does indeed matter.  Would it make a difference if someone chooses to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual?  It’s an interesting question and one that has the potential for lots of heated discussion.  All the people who usually say it is a choice are conservative, STRAIGHT, politicians, which hardly gives them a credible place to be speaking from.  How can you say it is a choice, when you are from the other camp and have no experience of what it actually FEELS like mentally and emotionally to be gay?  But that kind of logic never seems to dawn on them.  But Ms Nixon is unusual in her comments, being an LGBT “whatever” person, and there are plenty of people who are unhappy with her comments as they feel it jeopardises the current moves toward equality.

But does it?  Is it a choice for some of you out there?  Does it matter if it is a choice?  Sound off in the comments and let us all know where you stand….heterosexuals too!

Big love,

 

DMx

Slow news day…so lets talk about Gareth again.

Today’s Link

Well, it seems to be a slow news day around the world for the LGBT community.  Scouring my usual patch of sites didn’t turn much of interest which I suppose could be good or bad, depending on which way you look at it.  So, there is nothing for it but to post a final link about Gareth Thomas in the Big Brother house.  Gareth didn’t win unfortunately, but did come in third place.  I have no idea what that means really as I don’t watch the show.  But I applaud Gareth for doing it and for being a fine upstanding chap and role model for gay youth today, especially for those in sports.

You can see a video of Gareth of the above link too.  Hopefully there will be some more discussable news tomorrow!

Do you like my new hair do?  Bedhead rocks when you have longer hair……

Big love,

DMx

Shoud Black civil rights have been voted on in the 50s & 60s?

Today’s Link

Well today’s link is really sad to see.  As you will find out Governor Christie states that Same Sex marriage should go up for a popular vote in New Jersey.  It seems this may be because he sees that it could be voted yes on within the assembly.

More troubling though are his comments that civil rights advocates in the South during the 1950s and ’60s “would have been happy to have a referendum on civil rights rather than fighting and dying in the streets.”

Really?  Not only do you think that marriage rights should be up for a popular vote but you think that rights for African-Americans should have been as well?  Does he not remember that even after the supreme court weighed in there were riots from members of the public who tried to block equality from happening and police and soldiers had to be called in?

Of course he does….he just chooses to ignore that little bit.

Shame on you Governor Christie.

Big love,

DMx

Starbucks for equality

Today’s Link

This is a nice thing to see.  Starbucks yesterday came out in support of full marriage equality in the Washington state, the current battleground location.  They join other big business such as Microsoft in stumping for equality.

As someone who worked for Starbucks for many years this is no surprise to see and is something that makes me smile and very happy.  Starbucks have always been very equality minded and have always made their corporate culture and training programs reflect that.  They don’t always do everything right but this is great to see.  I often hear so many people slamming their products, saying incorrect things like burnt coffee, lack of fair trade, etc, so it’s nice to see some people picking up the positive aspects of the company for once and putting it out there.

Three cheers for Buckies!

Big love,

DMx